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with all this talk about dating, i've been thinking too. no, i'm not thinking of dating anyone, but i've been thinking about whether i have any patterns consistent to all my failed relationships. and there's only one: programmers.

everyone i've ever fallen in love with was a programmer, either as a profession (or a desired profession) or as a hobby. and i'm wondering if that's just an interesting fact, or if it actually means anything relevant.

actually, what i think it means is that those are the types of people i hang around with, and i tend to date within my social group. but i dunno. all but 2 of them turned out to be arrogant assholes. one wasn't an asshole because he was too happy-dorky, and the other...well, i probably just didn't know him well enough.

and one of the things i've come to realize about these sorts of people is that not only are they arrogant assholes, but they like themselves that way. they revel in it.

that's something i don't think i like.
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macklinr From: macklinr Date: Wednesday 6th February 2002 10.04 (UTC) (Link)
I'm assuming I'm one the the arrogant assholes?
That's ok, I declared myself an asshole. But I'm not really arrogant, I'm just a narcissist. I'm not arrogant about computers, anyway.

You should also look at some other patterns within how you act in a relationship, rather than just common traits in your ex-boyfriends.
valamelmeo From: valamelmeo Date: Wednesday 6th February 2002 14.23 (UTC) (Link)
you're right. i latch onto people who will validate me without thinking about any other reason i might want to be with them. i don't factor in important circumstances like geography and maturity. i worry more about making the other person happy than about making myself happy. i have trouble saying no in the beginning, and things snowball. i tend to get in over my head. i fall in love too easily.

i could go on, but you get the picture.